In this you greatly rejoice, even though now for a little while, if necessary, you have been distressed by various trials, so that the proof of your faith, being more precious than gold which is perishable, even though tested by fire, may be found to result in praise and glory and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ. - 1st Peter 1:6-7

Take all your pain and hurt and anger and sorrow and turn it to God as praise. Praise for his incredible mercy and his unfailing love. Don’t waste your life focussed on your trials, because some day soon he will wipe every tear from your eye.